scarfmouse:

its kind of like how some radfems get all superior about how ladies who choose to wear make up or high heels are participating in their own oppression b/c clearly they simply ARE NOT ENLIGHTENED ENOUGH to realize what their own motivations for wearing things on their bodies are

can we not have discussions or even disagreements between ourselves without one party positioning the other party as defective members of that group

like YOU ARENT DOING BEING A LADY RIGHT YOU JUST DONT REALIZE IT BECAUSE PATRIARCHY

YOU ARENT DOING BEING A JEW RIGHT YOU JUST DONT REALIZE IT BECAUSE INTERNALIZED ANTISEMITISM

i wish people would not assume that they know more about other people’s motivations or levels of insight in these discussions

or ever really

like

general rule: if you think you know more about what is going on in someone’s head than they themselves do

SIT DOWN

(via gematriya)